If you moisten her bum with water, whatever you’re spanking her with will sting substantially more. Don’t believe me? Go try it. Just don’t abuse it or be zealous about it, being spanked kind of already really hurts as it is under normal dry butt circumstances, given that is the intended purpose of it.

Well thank you, I’m not quite sure of the reference you make, but, if it lead you to here and it’s helping you with your desires I’m very glad! Let me just say, don’t be afraid of your desires, grab them and take control of them even if that means giving up control. It will make you a better, a more beautiful, and more satisfied human being, and if you have a partner the same can probably be said about them.

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Oh, I see, I looked up your reference. Well that’s entirely fabulous how you were directed here and found some inspiration from it. As I said in a previous post most of what I post that are real life musings are from my past relationship since that’s where I had a heck of a lot of experience in this dynamic. But hey if there’s one person who is taking some insight from my blog and my current relationship I’ll make a more conscious effort in the future to post more updates in about my current b/f and my bringing out his inner dominant.

Oh that’s a devilish question, so many books, so little time. I’m a pretty big history geek, so there’d be a lot of non fiction on my list. Suetonius’s “The Twelve Caesars” is probably one of my favorite history books. I mean it’s more or less history, but he tells their histories with wit and satire, and of course a bit of embellishment on misdeeds by Emperors.(Especially in Emperor/Senate arguments, Suetinoius generally takes the side of the Senate). As for fiction though which people normally mean, I have to give it to Steinbeck’s “East of Eden”. Steinbeck’s other works I generally find just alright, but good god, “East of Eden” is the prodigal novel. It’s So.Fucking.Good. And Samuel Hamilton is basically the best literary  character ever. I actually did cry a few tears the first time I read it when his death comes up.

How yesterday may have been too successful. Or how I just got metaphorically chained to a bowl and began discipline.

I’m not going to go through the motions of the entire day, but suffice to say he was very much into my pet role. In my note I said I was going to do it for three hours, and I did, and when time was up I sat up on the couch and asked him what he thought, and the only response I got was “Will you continue being a cat for a while?”, so I hopped back down to the floor with glee, glad he had liked what we were doing and was into this more radical form of dominance and submission. And in that mode I stayed until he was ready to give me a reminder spanking I was due for.

Afterwards, we’re cuddling and talking. During this, I mention how with my ex even outside of pet mode he’d spontaneously sometimes put out my water bowl, indicating that’s what I was to drink from for the day, or have me eat out of my feeding bowl. And then the following happened:
“Will you drink out of a bowl for me?”
“Of course, I was already doing that before.”
“No I mean always”
“Still, of course, whenever you want.”
“No I mean for now on will you always drink out of a bowl for me when we’re here, whenever you want water or milk. You’re really pretty and elegant when you do it.”

And I didn’t know what to do. I don’t want to drink out my bowl like a cat every single day. Yet at the same time I’m trying to make him be confident in being dominant, since I want him to be very dominant, and eventually he’s going to be ordering me to do stuff I don’t want to do which I won’t have a say in. At this point before being collared when he’s still actually asking I feel like I can’t say no and hurt his confidence, especially when he was complimenting me in the request and double especially when I feel like saying no would make him feel like I’m refusing to do something for him that I was doing for my ex even if they’re not remotely the same in terms of frequency. So, I had a split second to think about all that and decided to acquiesce to his request and told him “Of course, I would love to for you.” Part of me though thought he wouldn’t actually follow through on it, that we were just being cute and coy with each other in a moment that is the cuddling after the extreme intimacy that is reminder spankings. So, me attempting to be coy offered my butt up as down payment so to say. If you recall our spankings are still just reminder spankings every 4 or 5 days normally, basically to put my back on my old schedule that I was with my ex since I know from enough experience that unfortunately for my butt, that level of frequency does work. I’m pretty emotional(and I mean say crying from depressing news on the TV from empathy overload, not perpetual PMSing bitch. Seriously I dislike the amount of empathy I have, its on constant overdrive, even happy things make me cry) so it works as a good grounding. Anyways though, back to current b/f, we do reminders, but we don’t do anything for discipline yet. So being coy I have him a gift, I told him he could in fact discipline me if I broke the bowl rule.

So, we arrive at today. I go over to his place, and since he knew I was already coming, lo and behold, there is my water bowl on the floor. *le sigh* We’re going to have to renegotiate this sometime in the not so distant future. I’ll gladly do it for now, but in the long run, c’mon. I don’t want to break his growing dom confidence though, so one day after collaring I’ll bring it up so he knows the decision is fully his, but use the well tested sub trick of big eyes and “Pleeeeaaassssee Sir”

Great success yesterday in numerous ways. Here’s some fun pics with no common theme for tumblr to celebrate.

I’m off to put plans into fruition! I like this picture, such a good master, left his kitten so much milk. I’m glad I found this picture, because I never even thought even in past experiences of drawing whiskers on my face. Happy Saturday, hope you do something kinky.

A view from the other side, male submission. I don’t want to play submission Olympics, but at the same time this is real male submission. There’s a broader, feminist related reason I’m posting this though. I’m probably going to have to come back to this later to articulate my thoughts better, but as for now we’ll go stream of conscious. If you search Tumblr or probably anywhere for that matter for the tag ‘chastity’, you tend to get a good majority of stuff related to male chastity. Makes sense I suppose right? Given the social pressure for men to be virile fucking gods who are stronger than their woman, the idea of their sex drive being beholden to their girlfriend is probably a hot fantasy. Plus, I assume a lot of men don’t like the idea of female chastity for the simple fact it’s a two way street, she may pleasure you in other way but locking your girlfriend in chastity also means the man has substantially less access to her vag as well. Sure, you can take off the belt nightly and fuck or whatever, but that ruins the point.

To the point though, of this section of men, there’s also a large sub section of men whose fantasies revolve around being the sissy, faggot, cocksucker, whatever, type. And this is what annoys me. It’s not because they want to be feminine submissive men, that would be awesome if they embraced that, it’s the exact opposite though. If you journey around kink social sites or what not, you’ll notice cross dressers who actually embrace femininity as a positive and transgender women(I know trans women don’t want to be lumped with cross dressers, but to my point, for different reasons, both groups have experience with either femininity or being female despite once having been physically male), they don’t do that, they act, well as most women act. More importantly they take pride in not only their state of either being female or feminine, but in their submission if they are submissive, because as I’ve written before, submission is a place of internalized strength.

Then you have this group that irks me, and it’s generally middle aged men, though some younger ones. My problem is, they see submission as a bad thing, a weak thing, and like many misogynists in the patriarchy, they of course associate it with femininity, because anything feminine is bad. Case in point, going back to chastity, this group instead of seeing chastity as basically a feat of strength, something that takes love and devotion, it turns them into a sissy somehow, because as well all know women have no sex drives beyond that of pleasing the urges of men, so being chaste is feminine. Many of these people also often appear to want to be cross dressers, and I say want to for a reason. Real cross dressers put effort into attempting to look feminine, because being feminine is a good thing, it’s hot, it’s powerful, it’s fun. These guys though will throw on hose without shaving their legs and a maid’s uniform or such, and then view their femininity from a place of disgust, i.e. going back to those who call themselves ‘sissy cocksucker’ types and a whole other host of disparaging adjectives meant to conjoin submission to femininity, and femininity to gross, weak things.

Now I have myself written here before on the idea that feminine energy may in fact be naturally submissive, I don’t mind that idea. What I do mind is the idea is that anything submissive is related to women(or that all women are submissive) and more importantly that said submissive because they are feminine make a person weak. Me, weak? Bitch I got ovaries so big I don’t need your stupid sissy balls. Nothing I do makes me weak, you voluntarily take a discipline belting that has you crying for relief and howling or pain, or being locked away from yourself for three months. That’s not weakness, that’s love and strength through submission. And what’s with all the use of cocksucker in a negative fashion. Well I know the answer, it’s misogyny from straight men, misogyny these men are holding up in their fantasies because they don’t actually respect women or femininity, hence to be feminine in any regard they have to disparage themselves in the process. Sucking dick is great. I know it feels great to him, and it feels great to me. The penis feels like no other part of the male body, all silky, and you get to feel it grow in your mouth. I get to feel our passion, I get to know how wild I’m driving him with just my mouth, I get to make him happy by taking in his seed, and I get to know that at any time I want I can just kneel down and start doing that, and have him completely under my spell. Plus, I know I look damn hot to him while I’m doing it. In fact if you’re not tired of reading my ramblings yet, I wrote not only one, but in fact two musings in regards to who is really in charge when it comes to dominance and submission in blowjobs.(Disclaimer: may not apply if you’re say tied down and being mouth fucked). So don’t you dare disparage giving head to a dick.

Yay pet posts again!

Here is the follow up to this post from the other day. What is going to happen after that blowjob is over? I’m going to tell him to sit still for a minute, then walk away slowly while stripping off what I’m wearing.(Yes I’ve thought this out). Then I’m going to go get my supplies I bought which is a cheap pet store collar, leash, feeding bowls, pet treats and a letter I wrote. Then I’m going to collar/leash myself and crawl back to him with letter in mouth. And then I’m going to curl up on the floor. I was going to type up the whole letter for here………..but eh, laziness. It basically gives him instructions on how to treat a pet, take me for a “walk” if I appear to need to go, don’t forget to keep my water bow filled and to feed me eventually, how I’m going to act and that a good kitty enjoys being given a treat now and then, along with some other things. I also state I’m staying in this mode for at least the next four hours no matter what, as he needs to experience this deep state of submission from me, and that I’ll gladly keep going after that if he wants.

I hope he likes it. Posting about pet time with my former b/f made me think about how fun it can be, aside from the giddy thrill of submission it makes me feel kind of cute and adorable. If he doesn’t, well, I guess that’s how it’ll be, I can’t expect him to dominate in the same way my ex did, everyone has their own styles of dominance and submission, though I can definitely try to nudge him over to certain ideas that I’ve already since long tried out in our descent into our new dynamic. The being a pet idea though was something I thought I could do to expose him to a deeper level of submission. We’ve been playing with literal bonds and other tools(he’s been really into figging ever since I introduced him to it), and have been doing reminder spankings(albeit with no discipline yet) for, I don’t even know how long, 3-4 weeks? I’d actually have to check the time stamp on my tumblr post about it. Now I’m going to move this along and show him what a deeper level of submission can be, it’s important, because in a week or two I’m going to give him a very special gift. I won’t say here though because I’m thinking of letting him finally get knowledge of my blog.

http://musingsfrombelow.tumblr.com/post/23680673031/daddysfucktoys-this-appears-to-be-a-real-nude

“now I’m kind of sad”

Yeah, sorry to burst your bubble. Likewise, I was disappointed to have found several chastity belt pics that are fake. Whomever did the photoshopping did a good job, but I hate to see one artist’s work deformed by another.

“If you do know of any good chastity tumblrs”

I do, and you do too! :) See:

http://daddysfucktoys.tumblr.com/tagged/chastity-belt

Please enjoy.

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What we have here is one of the few other erotic blogs that actually tags their posts, and it’s effing awesome. I can actually find what I want.

daddysfucktoys:

This appears to be a real nude photo of Katy Perry that she took of herself. But the photo with the chastity belt is photoshopped.

Huh, turns out it was a naked Kate Perry. I didn’t even realize, probably because I don’t really know what Kate Perry looks like that well. You might remember as linked above I used that picture for a post some time back, now I’m kind of sad. I mean I guess it’s still hot and and serves the visual cue that I needed for my anecdote, but still, it’s not as cool now that I know it wasn’t in fact an awesome amateur shot. And I was excited because there’s not a large amount of actual home made chastity shots on the internet(even professional ones aren’t that widespread, at least to my knowledge) and I was excited over such a good picture. Oh well, I guess I can’t complain, not like I ever volunteered a picture of myself in the belt to the internet. Oh well. If you do know of any good chastity tumblrs or such, do share! So I can then reblog the crap out of it with a few personal stories thrown in here and there.

How to please a Sir
1. If home before him, dress in sexiest attire, stand waiting for him.
2. When he comes home, drop to your knees, crawl over to him
3. Insert his penile into mouth orifice
4. When done thank him for being able to do this for him and for his ending gift.

This is part of my plan for Saturday. I’m going to arrive at his house before I know he’ll arrive back and do the above as such. Then I’m going to crawl over and get a note I have ready for him, where I’ll have laid out what the rest of the days’ plan includes. What that plan entails is………another post because that needs more typing than I’m willing to do presently.

A follow up to this post I made about mixing kink and pregnancy. I found far better pictures. That is all.

Ha, thank you. I forgot about that, I enjoyed writing that immensely. I can only hope I in fact immediately made his penis erect, then dashed his dreams as reality came crashing into the forefront.

Happiness is a warm gun.

And as well all know guns really are just symbolic of phallic desires.

So inherently happiness is a warm dick.